You are an engineer, a lawyer, an executive, a tech worker, a physician. Your brain has served you well, now it’s getting in your way.
I offer in-person weekly therapy, with video and telephone options when you are traveling.
I have expertise in empirically supported treatments for anxiety, depression, and trauma such as cognitive behavioral therapy, acceptance and commitment therapy, and mindfulness and compassion-based interventions. As importantly, I know a lot about how to change behavior and the common barriers to living the life we want, informed by science, religion, and mythology.
I work with the here and now to help you discover more meaning and create more impact in your life. Therapy with me is active and engaged. No navel gazing. We’re not talking about your mother unless it’s directly relevant to your goals for today and tomorrow.
I ask hard questions, give you honest feedback, and clearly define the problems to develop the best solutions. Yes, we will talk about emotions. I provide the science and tools to get you where you’re going.
There are no guarantees and this isn’t camp. But we will laugh a lot, I promise. And I’ll be as brave and curious as you need to get where we’re going. As some people say, I’m good at clearing out the bullshit.
Another answer to “how?”:
“Similarly, in [Acceptance and Commitment Therapy or ACT], our focus is not on the myriad displays of human suffering (symptoms and syndromes, or collections of symptoms) but rather on the processes that control the whole show. The psychological flexibility mode that underlies ACT is focused on a limited set of coherently related processes that contribute to human adaptability and its opposite, human psychopathology and suffering.” -Hayes, Strosahl, & Wilson, 2012
In other words, what differentiates us from other animals (the ability to derive relations between symbols aka language) is both our freedom and our downfall. They are inextricably linked. The therapy framework I use aims to help you use your brain for the things it’s good at without having your mind take over. To live with your feet firmly planted in your life, not lost in your head.
I’m here to help you create a bolder, stronger, more emotionally intelligent version of yourself. To create the life you want. To save the only life you can. To lead and love. To cultivate grit and resilience. To be and do better.
I wrote my clients a letter here.
Another answer to “why?”:
“The problem with problem solving is that it is a mode of mind that does not know when to stop. It easily becomes overextended. It may crowd out intuition, inspiration, dispassionate description and observation, engagement, appreciation, wonder, emotional intelligence, or any other form of knowing and experiencing that is not temporal or comparative. Evolutionary contingencies (i.e. learning how to do what works) cannot function in the absence of functional variation, and human lives readily become stuck in the lack of variation, unable to move ahead.” -Hayes, Strosahl, & Wilson, 2012
In other words, this wonderful problem solving brain thinks it’s the smartest board member in the room. And even though your emotions, your physical sensations, and your thought themselves aren’t technically problems, your brain says they are, and tries to think your way out of them. To a hammer, everything is a nail. So you’re hammering away. And stuck.
Your time, your energy, and this many dollars.
30 minute skills-focused session for $100
50 minute therapy session for $170
60 minute therapy session for $200
90 minute deeper processing and/or trauma recovery therapy session for $300
If you are interested in less expensive options, I suggest a number of reduced fee clinics in the Resources section of this site.